If you're parenting with a partner, and you're the one with the "good memory"… sigh. We feel you. It can be incredibly frustrating to feel like the bulk of the mental checklist lands on you. Then add in work stress, sleep deprivation, and even things like postpartum hormones (hi, still here), and suddenly the tiniest (or reasonable!) request can feel like one straw too many.
This week is about getting out of “default parent” mode with tools that stop resentment before it festers (or turns into a primal scream. That might just be me, though.)
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💗 The Tap-Out Phrase
👉 Pick a short phrase or even just an emoji for those days that means “I’m maxed out - your turn.” Something like “I'm need to tag out” or even .
Say it, text it, spell it out with your kid's magnet letter, but don't feel guilty about asking for help.
No TED Talk, no proof of exhaustion required. You both agree: when it’s said, the other steps in. Done.
📌 Solves for: burnout signals getting ignored, and resentment from pushing through silently.
💸 Venmo for Emotional Labor
👉 Set up a shared “outsourcing fund” (even $50 a month). Have your partner manage this entirely, or take turns deciding how it gets used: sitter, takeout, laundry drop-off, whatever.
The magic here is you don’t have to plan how your partner helps - they just act. It’s outsourcing, but it's also shared effort in lightening the load (and seeing what needs to get done!)
📌 Solves for: invisible labor, decision fatigue, and the mental work of delegating.
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🎒 Sunday Reset = Whole Family Reset
👉 If you find yourself being the default "cleaner," instead of you muttering while scrubbing yogurt off the wall, make Sunday clean-up a 15-minute all-hands blitz. Assign zones/responsibilities based on age, set a timer, blast music. Even a 3-year-old can “host a toy parade” back to the bin.
📣 Can confirm- this works! We do a nightly mini-version: in our house the “clean-up song” goes on repeat and everyone joins: husband, nanny if she’s around, toddler, me. We blitz through the living room and kitchen before bath - someone tidies, someone Swiffers, someone goes HAM with the Clorox spray - and it’s shockingly effective at keeping the mess under control.
📌 Solves for: constant mess, low-grade rage, and household imbalance.
K that’s all. You’re the best and we love you.
-CK “Nacho Default” Fuller (Editor) & the JB Crew 🫡